eulogy for eclair
2025 apr 23
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i also grew up kind of distant. it was difficult for me to connect to people. i always loved to be with my animals, though. i liked to take eclair outside on our deck & supervise her as she sloooowly explored the outdoors; she seemed enthused by all the sights & smells, and i loved how curious she was. on multiple occasions, she got "lost" outside ... sincerely, i can't remember if any of these were my fault -- i'm guessing no, because i don't think i could ever escape the guilt of something like that to the point that i'd forget i'd done it -- but more importantly, none of them ended in tragedy. just dumb stress in the moment.
one time, i believe she got out while it was raining. she didn't get very far, fortunately, as a few minutes later, she was at the door drenched to all hell, looking like a proverbial drowned rat. she was used to baths at this point ( but didn't enjoy them ) so i suppose getting soaked like that was routine ... unpleasant, but routine.
another time, my mom & i were out of town for a funeral in the extended family, i believe, and my brother had come by to babysit the animals for us. my mom kept it a secret from me until it was resolved, but apparently my brother lost eclair somewhere & couldn't find her for a day or two. after leaving food out for her, it turned out that she was stuck in our damn garage! oh, poor girl ...
there were surely more scares, but these two are the main ones i remember. at the very least, i was surely responsible for inspiring a desire to venture outside in her ... we're just lucky she wasn't the type to try escaping every single time a door was opened. maybe halfway through her life, i had to leave for college. my mom was left taking care of her while i was gone, and this period marked a turning point in her personality. college was filled with disruption -- for eclair, this meant me being gone for months at a time, having to abandon our home of 20-some years as rising costs forced us to move, and also losing her longtime playmate spencer. when i came back, she was a lot more cranky -- she tolerated everyone poorly except my mom, and even then my mom still got the stink eye now & then. but despite putting on airs, she did still enjoy my company ... it just had to be on her terms. after i finished school & managed to move out on my own, my time with her got even more sparse. i'd see her every now & then for holidays, but that was it. and for a long time here, despite not being in my life anymore, really, she remained a rock for me. she was predictable. as i was finally reconciling with the difficulties of my childhood & coming to terms with my parents being abusive, she was the only thing keeping my relationship with my mom at all tangible; i never wanted to see my mom, but i always wanted to see eclair.
my mom took good care of her, but she wouldn't ever play with her. anytime we visit, she'd prime herself for playtime in her own dismissive, nonchalant way ... and it was this gesture that had me confident that she still loved me, even though i abandoned her. pets were still on a rare case-by-case baslis, but i knew i could always bond with her through her toys. this continued on for many years ... until last year, 2024.
around this time, eclair started getting UTIs. she was old, we knew anything could be the end for her at this point. we had a few scares. but she kept on fighting. once, we went to see her around christmas time. christmas, 2024. this was the second to last time i would see her, although at the time, i feared it would actually be my last.
this was after she had recovered from a UTI, but was still not 100%. when we arrived at my mom's, both well & i were shocked ... because she was so affectionate. she headbutt us & purred when we pet her. it only lasted a little bit -- she got cranky & meandered off to her room upstairs after a bit -- but i couldn't believe it. it had been years since she was this openly warm towards either of us. and she was playful! my mom had said she didn't bother with anything, but she was enthusiastic to play with her toys with us! it was not a good christmas for me, but i left that night thinking, if this were the last i ever saw eclair, i would be happy. knowing she had that much spunk near the end like that gave me hope. but ... she deteriorated somewhat rapidly after that. and i think we all knew it would happen like this, but of course none of us wanted to accept it. eclair, you were an incredible cat & incredible friend. i will love you forever. you will always be a legendary animal, to me & my friends, who all cowered in fear of your regal 12 lbs of splendor.
i hope you had a nice time with us, and that you were happy. because i had a very nice time with you.
when i am no longer distraught, i will go through the trouble of uploading some photos to the post. for now, thank you for reading, and please excuse any typos.